陈豪在北京的ABC美国公司工作。他和美国同事Amy刚刚开完会。6 K" \- U3 f8 ?3 H& r5 `. {0 R
(Office ambience)
2 @! n" V @' [ `7 w6 q A:陈豪,Do you have a few minutes to talk?
, `/ f1 Y3 Z7 Q/ F C:Sure, 有什么事吗?
) f& l$ s# l3 B0 q, }- x A:I noticed something in our meeting just now. 做为朋友,我觉得应该告诉你。It has to do with good etiquette.
- P! d. E$ G- Q# _- C C: 我有什么地方做得不对吗?西方礼节对我来说还有些陌生,你可得随时提醒我。9 L' o: D- E5 G- H
A: It has to do with body language, specifically eye contact.- Z* ` N* L. J; C. z$ h6 z
C:肢体语言?Amy, 你能说得具体点儿吗?
5 Z w5 U6 i* k9 X+ R A:We send nonverbal messages with our arms, our legs, our posture, our gestures and most often with our eyes.
+ @. q; A$ ?. {* w I# \ C:你是说能从我眼睛里能看出我的想法吗?9 G; {: K1 B2 g, B& P9 o
A:没错。比方说,今天开会时,your eyes said more than your words or your facial expression. Todd 介绍提案时,我能看出你不同意他的意见。0 Y( _7 y1 _2 m: g
C:奥, 你从我眼睛就能看出来?我真的是有异议。可你看出来的?我可是一字都没说呀。6 F& ^/ o; N, i1 |
A: You didn't have to. You rolled your eyes.: V8 U Y. X9 e8 A
C: 我翻眼睛了吗?我怎么一点儿都没觉得。
3 x5 V d" h5 y* |9 G' l A:你是下意识的。You were not aware, but several people at the meeting noticed.
, B# G2 ]" s2 V6 } C:那就是说虽然我嘴上没表示反对,其它人还是能够看出来。Was there anything else that I did with my eyes?
3 ^ k c+ ?# }. p A:Unfortunately, yes. You looked away several times while Todd was speaking.
' f% h7 w9 w/ h/ \, F5 x0 L! E9 [ C:这有什么不好吗?他说的我都听过好几遍了。' K% l% S; q4 G+ ^! ]; _
A:没错。By not looking at Todd, you gave the impression that you had heard it all before and were not the least bit interested in hearing more.
$ s/ z6 [/ ^6 s3 ^. F C:这我可没想到。我一直在努力管住自己的嘴巴,不要乱讲话。
, A% s8 `. J' O* q6 j A:Well, your eyes did that for you.5 G' i* X. ]# S# i
C: Amy, 你还从我的眼神儿里看出什么了? _" L# [7 p' q
A:When you lost complete interest in what Todd was saying, you just stared at him blankly. It was that old "deer in the headlights" look.
' y' z. m5 P$ g+ ~; j C:“车前灯里的鹿”是什么意思啊?
& N, t/ R2 P! S4 q5 J* N A:For the deer facing the headlights of an oncoming car, its expression is one of looking, but not seeing.
& [, b! G8 z; n/ d0 |7 O6 g0 { C:你是说我的眼睛虽然看着Todd,但是别人能看出来,我其实并没有听进去?, f9 s+ D. k) V2 _' p+ _3 a
A:That's right. The courteous professional is as conscious of his body language as he is his spoken language.
: p* ? m; |6 e3 r f C: Amy, 你能不能再提醒我一下,以后要怎么做,省得我的眼睛把我的想法都泄漏出去了。
4 }: W) K+ e- ~, p$ v e3 O A:记住,眼睛是心灵的窗口。Learning to control the message that your eyes send is the key to courteous communication. |